Hi everyone

I just wanted to write a quick post to clarify a few things incase I offended or gave anybody the wrong impression from my last post.

I write these posts as if it were my diary. They are personal feelings and some are just for fun.

My last post ‘miscarriage for dummies’ was written because I felt sometimes we don’t know the do’s and dont’s In a bad situation. It was me expressing personal feelings that I had felt during the first few months after. Things people had said to me, or how they had acted that I felt needed addressing so that if anybody else goes through or knows someone that goes through this at least they could kind of know some ways to be a good supportive friend.

I did not once say or imply that people shouldn’t be happy if they are pregnant. Be happy, it’s a wonderful thing. Just be sensitive towards someone if they have suffered a loss/miscarriage. Try to remember they are going through a hard time and new pregnancy announcements are a little bit like rubbing salt in a open wound.

But that doesn’t mean don’t be happy. I don’t want anyone to feel bad about happy news. Again my blog is personal feelings that I felt as I was going through a tough situation. It is about me, my feelings, my thoughts.

All my love πŸ™‚


A few little thoughts

Hi everyone,

It’s been a long summer, sorry I have not blogged sooner. I’m writing this from my phone so hopefully there won’t be too many errors, I apologize in advance.

James and I have moved AGAIN, but this time it will be a more permanent situation. We are in Claremont, ca and I absolutely love the area here. We live in a beautiful townhome with everything we need in walking distance. Reminds me so much of home, which is why I love it so much.

For most of the summer I was in England, I threw Lucy a baby shower and got to be there when she gave birth and what an awesome experience that was, but that’s for it’s own post if Lucy’s ok with me doing that πŸ™‚

I have been struggling a little bit after the whole miscarriage, so many people are pregnant it’s really hard to get get away from it. I deleted Facebook off my phone so I don’t get depressed every time I see pregnancy announcements, or people posting how happy they are with their hundreds of children, and how great motherhood is, and I’m trying to focus on anything other than that. I have been getting frustrated with people’s lack of sensitivity towards the situation and I will be posting about that, but that’s a whole different and deeper post for another time.

I have applied for college for January 2014 to take some photography classes, scary but glad to be progressing in something that I enjoy. I want to do something I love and be GREAT at it πŸ™‚
James has said he will sing with me…. So hopefully he actually will. If not ill just keep singing by myself.

James and I just had lindy (James’ sister) randy and the kids visit this past weekend, we went to magic mountain and it was awesome. They have a new ride called ‘full throttle’ and was AWESOME… You must go and you must ride it πŸ™‚

Other than my sister having the most wonderful little baby in the world, and our move to Claremont, not much else is happening over here. But I will post about the birth, if Lucy’s ok with that, and my miscarriage for dummies.

Hope everyone is doing great, I will blog soon πŸ™‚

Just a lil update on us :-)

Hi all
I am posting this from my phone so I apologize for any errors in advance. Unfortunately I don’t have any magical topics to blog about instead ill just give you an update on what’s happening in the land of Stacey and James.
James has been working really really hard and I know he had the number one spot in his office recently, hooray. I am very proud. This lead to him being offered a promotion in Fresno, ca. We were so grateful they had thought of James to co manage the office up there, but we had to turn it down after lots of prayer and writing down lists of pros and cons. Work wise it would be a great opportunity, but Fresno is not the place for us right now. But we are so thankful that James is doing so well. He loves his job, we love San Diego, life is good.
Now I am trying to figure out what to do with myself. I have thought of different jobs etc…. But every morning I find myself really unmotivated to do anything, I get really homesick and wish I could pop over the road and see Lucy or my mum and dad, and sometimes the thought of not being able to do that makes me really sad. Yes, I have proposed to James that we move back home πŸ™‚ and maybe one day when James is super successful and we are loaded that can be a possibility πŸ˜‰ but right now we are just normal people, without our millions. Bummer. πŸ˜‰
The weather in San Diego just got nice again after a week of grey overcast skies. But the sun was shining today and it was lovely.
Sorry I don’t have anything that’s too interesting.
Will write again soon πŸ™‚
Please excuse any errors in this too…..
Love to all xoxox

A Picture Speaks A Thousand Words

Hello All,

For the longest time I have been on James’ case about getting pictures done, I’ve looked into different photographers and their prices and I had such a hard time justifying the money it costs now that I have my own camera. Well, a couple of weeks ago a wonderful new couple (Stephanie and Dann) had joined Vivint Solar here in San Diego, we had heard allot about them through a mutual friend so we knew of them, but hadn’t met them yet, so when we did meet, I found that Stephanie and I shared a love for photography and I asked if she would mind taking some pictures of James and I that I could edit. This way I had somebody who knew what they doing and then I could do all the work afterwards.

About 2 months ago I had been out on a drive with my friend Matt, We were just nosy-ing around, checking out the neighborhood when we stumbled upon a road in Rancho Santa Fe that dead ended. It had such a picturesque beauty I had to save the location in my phone for a future photo shoot, So I got out my iphone. dropped a pin and saved it in my bookmarks. This is where James and I took our pictures.

Stephanie was Amazing and Dan was Also awesome, taking pictures can sometimes be a bit of a drag, it can get boring, having to do the same thing over and over again, but Dan kept us entertained by telling us really funny (stupid) jokes the entire time and being great at making us feel less ridiculous, and Stephanie was great at making us feel comfortable. I get a little awkward sometimes in front of the camera just because I hate how fake it can seem, and Stephanie did a great job of knowing how to bring out the genuity, which I hope you can see the pictures.

greentree redtree

So these two pictures are the same obviously, I was fiddling with the colors of the leaves and I absolutely loved the deep red, I feel it made the picture more romantic. But I also loved the brightness and the boldness of the greens, they popped out so much and really made the picture enticing. I couldn’t decide which I liked better, so I uploaded both.


The Lemon Grove πŸ™‚ What a perfect location and what great composition from Stephanie. I made this picture landscape as I felt the sky was a little plain and I wanted the main focus to be on the lemon grove and of course James and I in the middle. I fiddled with different effects and colors and loved the retro effect. My jeans helped me on that decision, not really sure why, that’s just the feeling I got when I looked at the picture unedited, that 70’s vibe.


I absolutely LOVE this picture. I love the green and the blue and the contrast and the laid back, prettiness of it. Stephanie got this spot on with the composition, the clouds make it so picture perfect. I barely did anything to this editing wise, just a little brighter on the blue and the green and I think I added a warm filter, but it really didn’t need much.


The Four Of Us: Stephanie was sitting on the grass, with her legs crossed taking a picture of us and then Dan came up behind her and it looked like such a great picture I had to try it, so James and I mirrored Dan and Stephanie and added the dogs, Viola, This was what we got. I did allot of editing on this picture, more facial and skin smoothing, and I also added a red filter to warm it up.


The Dogs: Coco and Bella are perfect in this shot, taking pictures with these two wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be, but it’s always a challenge. Thankfully they did a wonderful job, just been doggies πŸ™‚ I love that they are the main focal point of this picture and James and I are looking at each other so it’s not too distracting from the dogs


Ok Now here is a Before and After shot. As you can see the unedited picture was composed beautifully, but the sky was boring. When I looked at this picture I envisioned a fantasy land, as if we were walking into something that doesn’t exist here, I wanted it to have an element of the fantasy world and the real world. So I looked up different things to do on youtube. I tried fiddling with the colors of the sky but that didn’t do anything, it was still boring. Then I found a tutorial on youtube where you can actually edit out the sky and replace it. I spent at least half an hour trying to find the perfect sky, then it took me about half an hour to figure out how to do it without making it look terribly fake. I was so pleased with the outcome and It has made me want to create more pictures like it, more dramatic and whimsical.

James said that this picture looks metaphorical, In the book of mormon there is a story of a dream one of the early prophets had, (I have copied the children’s version of the story below so you can read it if you want too.) James described this picture as us walking the straight and narrow path, to the tree of life (there is a tree in he picture) then continuing our journey to Heaven. I named this picture ‘Journey to Heaven” as I felt it was very fitting.

Lehi told his family about an important vision he had had in a dream. Lehi’s dream made him happy for Nephi and Sam but sad for Laman and Lemuel.
1 Nephi 8:2–4

In his dream Lehi saw a man wearing a white robe who told Lehi to follow him. Lehi followed the man into a dark and dreary wilderness.
1 Nephi 8:5–7

After traveling in the darkness for many hours, Lehi prayed for help.
1 Nephi 8:8

Then he saw a tree with white fruit. This sweet fruit made those who ate it happy.
1 Nephi 8:9–10

Lehi ate the fruit, and it filled him with joy. He wanted his family to taste the fruit because he knew it would make them happy too.
1 Nephi 8:11–12

Lehi saw a river flowing near the tree. At the head of the river he saw Sariah, Sam, and Nephi.
1 Nephi 8:13–14

Lehi called to his wife and sons to come and taste the fruit. Sariah, Sam, and Nephi went and tasted the fruit, but Laman and Lemuel would not.
1 Nephi 8:15–18

Lehi also saw a rod of iron and a strait and narrow path leading to the tree.
1 Nephi 8:19–20

He saw many people walking on or toward the path. Because of a mist of darkness, some wandered off the path and became lost.
1 Nephi 8:21–23

Others held tightly to the iron rod and made it through the darkness to the tree. They tasted the fruit.
1 Nephi 8:24

People in a large building on the other side of the river made fun of those who ate the fruit. Some who had eaten the fruit became ashamed and left the tree.
1 Nephi 8:26–28

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Lehi saw many people in his dream. Some held firmly to the iron rod and traveled through the darkness to the tree. They tasted the fruit. Others went to the large building or drowned in the river or became lost. Laman and Lemuel would not eat the fruit. Lehi worried about them and tried to help them obey God’s commandments.

The tree of life is metaphorical for the scriptures (Bible and the book of Mormon) Yes, we believe in both. The iron rod, is following Christ’s example, the commandments, etc… staying on the right path, and the wilderness to me, is, where people are lost spritually. The tree of life is the truth, and by eating and sharing the fruit of the tree, we are sharing what we believe to be true and what will bring eternal happiness and blessings. πŸ™‚ This is just my opinion, this is not church doctrine. But I’m sure it’s pretty close πŸ˜‰

I hope you enjoyed this, I still have about 7 more pictures I will be editing and then uploading on here, so keep checking back.

Love to ALL xoxoxox

Birthday Weekend

Hello All

Sorry it’s been a little while, but with my birthday last week I’ve been really busy. February 28th I turned the big 26… I am grateful to have made it to another year, although it is a little scary getting old haha. I still look 18 though so it’s not all bad I guess, anyway…..

My day started off with breakfast made by James


Yes it was as yummy as it looked, the eggs were a little runny but James has been forgiven πŸ˜‰ After James handed me my breakfast the doorbell rang and I thought to myself ‘OMG Lucy is here, or my Mum or Dad’ then I heard a voice and it was, American, I have never been so gutted to hear an american accent in all my life, ok maybe thats a little dramatic, but it’s true, all my dreams were crushed, it was not a family member 😦 BUT…. It was a flower delivery lady who was delivering me some flowers πŸ˜€

James walked into the bedroom with these….

zoe flowers

The first thing he said was.. ‘They’re not from me’. We were both really confused, then I grabbed the paper card that was attached and it read, ‘Happy Birthday beautiful pixie, Love you to infinity and beyond’ Luckily I knew who they were from as there was no name. My friend Zoe, she’s obsessed with Toy story and she thinks I have pixie ears :), I was so surprised to recieve flowers from her because I don’t talk to her as often as I should, So Zoe, I am very very grateful for my beautiful flowers they were a lovely surprise.

James had a meeting to attend from 10-1, so I was all alone, but not for long, Β I skyped with my Mum and Dad, (After I had texted my dad to remind him of my birthday) and we skyped for an hour or so, made me feel like I was at home which was so nice. Last year I was so depressed on my birthday, it was miserable. But skyping definitley helps.


Especially when your dad has an antenna sticking out of his head πŸ˜‰

Then I skyped with Lulu (don’t worry Lucy, no pictures of you on here ;)) We talked for a good hour or so.

I decided I wanted to go to the beach as it was a whopping 82degrees outside, and there was no way I was going to sit indoors on a beautiful day like this, I waited for James to come home, and off we went to Carlsbad Beach. It was nice, and peaceful, and beautiful, and perfect. Just me and the hubs hanging out. I also brought along my camera and took some pics, here are two of the ones I liked the most.

menjames ocean

The writing on the picture of James and I, reads, ‘He stole my heart, and now it’s his, forever and always, sealed with a kiss, I love you more then you will ever know, forever and always, I hope you know’ I am not sure if that came from the brain in my head or if I had read it before and just remembered it, So I will take credit for it, unless someone else makes their claim.

We spent about an hour at the beach, then we headed back to the pool at our apartment, We stopped by a Starbucks on the way home, picked up a cheese pastry yum, then went to the pool at our apartment and sat in the hot tub for a little while, with lots of screaming children splashing about, I love kids, but I was kind of hoping they would all go away and leave me and James alone on my birthday, but hey, you can’t have it all ……. just kdding. Kind of πŸ˜‰

We spent an hour at the hot tub then went back home to get ready for dinner. James had won two $50 gift certificates from work to cheesecake factory so we went there for dinner, it was such a beautiful evening we sat outside at 7pm, perfect temperature πŸ™‚ I was under a heat lamp because I’m always cold, but it was just perfect.

James’ work friends had planned a get together bonfire at the beach for 7.30, so after dinner we headed to the beach and hung out with everyone. I had a fun time, it was nice to just sit by the fire and watch all the little kids run around throwing sand in each others faces, and mingling with James’ co workers. Before we left we told everyone that saturday was my birthday dinner and that we would go Go-Karting afterwards, then off we went on our merry way.


Saturday evening was a success, Tgi fridays was awesome, not all the people could come, but it worked out for the best, we all chatted, ate good food, got a free pineapple juice, my friend Jessica bought me red velvet birthday cake. It was awesome. James and I had to leave early as we were meeting the next group of people half an hour away at the Go karts, there was only 6 of us that went karting, but we had such a a great time, I BEAT James in one race, and came 2nd in another (James was 1st in that one) After the first race I thought I was going to puke, I had such bad motion sickness, but I raced again, this time with no motion sickness, I did get seatbelt burns on my collar bone, which I referred to as neck bones hahahaha, I think all that kart racing made my brain go funny, on the third race I wore a shirt to cover my collar bone, and all I did was hurt my back πŸ™‚ so it was an eventful evening, but very very fun. The Go Karts here are electric and they go up to 40mph which on a little race track is a plentiful speed.

I really missed my family and friends, but I had such a great time with such great people so I can not complain.

James and I had a little photoshoot yesterday with our friend Stephanie and her husband Dan. I will do a seperate post for that, but for now here is a peek at a couple of the pics from the shoot..

Hope I didn’t bore you to death

Love ya xoxox

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Dog Beach Day

Yesterday February 26th, was 72degrees here in beautiful san Diego. I wanted to do something with the pups as I don’t take them out nearly as much as I should, so I thought a day at the dog beach would be a fun event for them. I was hesitant to take Bella because she is a little whimpy around other dogs. She hates them, she constantly barks when another dog comes close to her, especially the ones that like to chase her and possibly eat her. Coco on the other hand is a dogs dog, he loves to play with smaller dogs and follow Charlie (my friend Matt’s dog) everywhere she goes. So I called my friend Matt and off we went with our five doggies to the beach. One of the many highlights of living in southern california is the many dog beaches they have, the one we went to, Solana Dog Beach, is a beach just for people with dogs which is especially great because it’s an off leash beach so they can run wherever they want too. I also took this oppurtunity to get some good pics, so I brought along my camera.

First let me introduce you to the pack:

Here is Coco

This is Charlie, Matt got her from a shelter and she is such a sweet dog, I love her allot
This is little Bella
Matt’s dog Floppy, my little lover πŸ™‚ He follows me everywhere I go
And last but not least Matt’s 3rd dog Goliath.
They are all wonderful, sweet dog’s and they get along great together which is marvelous.
When we were walking down to the Beach from the car, I was a little hesitant to take Bella off the leash as she has a tendency to run far away and not listen to me when I want her to come back. I kept her on it until we were far enough away from the busy road and we were in an area where there weren’t so many hyper dogs. Coco came off leash right away and he ofcourse ran up to the first people he saw that were running and barked at them whilst jumping at their feet, now, Coco is a sweet little dog he has a great temperament, BUT, if you are running away from him he will chase you down and bark at you, I’m not really sure why he does that, but he is my little psychopath. As funny as it is, it’s not a good habit and I need to find a way to stop him from doing that, but I yelled at him a few times and he came running back, I did get a dirty look from the people he was barking at, even after I apologised. Whoops.
Whilst Matt went running with Charlie, I climbed onto a rock and people watched, admiring all the different doggies and enjoying the sunshine, in the meantime,
Coco and Bella made some friends
These guys were a little big, but they were only passing by, but then this little one showed up….
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This little girl called princess is an 8 year old pom, she was a little scared of all the dogs, but Bella and Coco were great with her so she was ok after a while.
Matt and Charlie returned, so Coco hung out with her for a bit
I even got Coco to smile for the camera πŸ˜‰
IMG_8741Pretty sure coco was peeing right there
Bella had been off the leash for about 10minutes and she made sure to say hello to all the people at the beach,
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They all loved her and she spent a good amount of time with every person she met.
We also saw some puppies
This was a 6 month old German shepherd, so beautiful and BIG
IMG_8795and this little guy was only 4 months old.
We also met a very nice man, with two huskys, they were really playful and loved to play with Charlie, one of the huskys had a little obsession with Bella and every time he went near her she would yelp, and it would just egg him on, eventually he got the message and left her alone. He couldn’t understand what the problem was, he was just trying to sniff her butt πŸ˜‰
The husky’s owner got brave and decided it would be a smart idea to bring dog treats out of the bag….
IMG_8794Everybody wants what that man has….bet he wishes he didn’t do that
IMG_8802Bella creeping up behind him….
After the treats were out the bag and the nice man and his dogs had left, I decided to try a photoshoot with Coco and Bella… The best I got was this
cocobellaconvoThis one I think looks like bella and coco are having a conversation and coco is just like ‘whatever’ haha, captions for this picture are welcome
cocoposeThis one is precious, after Bella had run off to greet somebody else I was left with my side kick, I thought this was a really sweet photo.
After this was taken, coco got restless and bored then ran off to play with the others, so I took a couple snap shots of my views…
This was to my left…
This was to my right
beach cove
I decided to take a little walk down here, it was so pretty and it was nice and enclosed for the pups,
IMG_8771There they all are watching me leave, when coco notices Im leaving he rushes over, that fluff ball is always at my feet, I like to think of it as love, but I’m sure it’s from coddling him as a puppy and I’ve given him an anxiety disorder.
cocobelsThey all came running over and ran around like lunatics, hyper lunatics. It’s always entertaining to watch.
Now this picture is GREAT, Charlie was getting riled up and chasing Floppy around, all with good intentions, but if you look at this picture it looks like Floppy is running for his life haha… I Love this picture, All captions are welcome πŸ™‚
So after being at the beach for a good 2 hours, we leashed up all the dogs, took them back to the car and then headed for home. After 2 minutes of driving they were all asleep, so we knew they had a great time. I was feeling the high from all that sun, but I was excited to get home and finish all the cleaning haha NOT. Beach days are the best, I got to talk to a lot of people whilst I was there and it felt good to be around people and know that the dogs were wearing themselves out. California is the GREATEST.
I hope you enjoyed reading about our beach day πŸ˜‰

Hot Topics

I am still adjusting to this whole blog thing, I hope you have found my posts somewhat entertaining/interesting. I have been thinking about how I can make this blog more fun for everyone, I was thinking I should start blogging about certain topics on certain days, For example; I could blog about different recipes I have tried out on Mondays, then Fertility/Acupuncture another day, Photography etc…. My question is, what are some things that interest you most about mine and James’ life? How can I make this more interesting for you? Is there anything specific you want me to write about?

Let me know your thoughts, if any, then I can start blogging with a purpose, rather then just random things here and there πŸ˜€

Peace out Dudeys