Misunderstanding

Hi everyone

I just wanted to write a quick post to clarify a few things incase I offended or gave anybody the wrong impression from my last post.

I write these posts as if it were my diary. They are personal feelings and some are just for fun.

My last post ‘miscarriage for dummies’ was written because I felt sometimes we don’t know the do’s and dont’s In a bad situation. It was me expressing personal feelings that I had felt during the first few months after. Things people had said to me, or how they had acted that I felt needed addressing so that if anybody else goes through or knows someone that goes through this at least they could kind of know some ways to be a good supportive friend.

I did not once say or imply that people shouldn’t be happy if they are pregnant. Be happy, it’s a wonderful thing. Just be sensitive towards someone if they have suffered a loss/miscarriage. Try to remember they are going through a hard time and new pregnancy announcements are a little bit like rubbing salt in a open wound.

But that doesn’t mean don’t be happy. I don’t want anyone to feel bad about happy news. Again my blog is personal feelings that I felt as I was going through a tough situation. It is about me, my feelings, my thoughts.

All my love ๐Ÿ™‚

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Miscarriage For Dummies

Hi all,

Before I begin writing this post, I want to make it perfectly clear that I am not mad at anyone specifically, neither is this a personal attack on anybody. This is just something that has been on my mind lately and I have wanted to address it for a while.

Since my last post about the miscarriage, I was feeling OK, but since being around people I have noticed a change in the way that people act around me. When I went home, around some people I felt like nobody knew what to say, and so they didn’t talk to me as they would normally, which is understandable. But it made me feel alienated and pretty crappy. I also felt people were failing to acknowledge something quite distressing had happened. So I wanted to write this post so people can feel more comfortable about the situation and just get a better idea of how to be a good friend.

The do’s and don’ts:

Don’t send pictures of your positive pregnancy tests and expect a happy reaction. I just lost something that I’ve worked hard 2.5 years for. If you want to share your good news with me, a text or an email saying hey I just wanted to let you know I’m pregnant, hope your’e doing ok… something along those lines would be much better, rather then throwing in my face your happy news. Just be considerate. Am I bitter about it? Clearly I am, not because you are pregnant, but because I am not anymore. Call me selfish, but I think I’m entitled to feel sad about it.

Do ask me how I am: It’s so comforting to know that people care, and it makes me feel I have people who are looking out for me

Dont brush off what has happened with comments like, ‘Oh it’s just not the right time’….. somewhere in the world a druggie is pregnant, I don’t think timing has anything to do with it and it really bothers me when people say that. Another one is ‘At least you weren’t that far along’ This one is more understandable, but I was 10 weeks when I had my DnC, by that time there should have been a baby… and after you see a heartbeat, I don’t think it matters how far along you were.

Do Listen

Don’t use the word negative, there were times I was really down and sad, and when people would say I was being negative, it made me want to punch them in the mouth and knock there teeth out. It’s ok to be down in the dumps, sometimes you can’t help it, it’s unfortunate, but guess what being miserable comes with infertility and a miscarriage, its such an emotional tornado and it makes you feel like a failure. It’s usually only temporary, but by calling someone negative when they are in a bad place is like pushing them deeper into the pit. Rather then point out the bad, try to encourage by being nice, and suggesting something positive.

Dont tell me how to feel. or what to do. Just be a friend and listen and be there.

DO talk to me like a normal person.

I was shocked at the lack of understanding from some people, it made me feel even worse then I already did. But thank fully I have some GREAT friends who are there for me all the time when I need them and I am able to talk to them without feeling worse about myself.

I went on allot of online Miscarriage forums for comfort and I was surprised that the same thing was happening to them, people saying insensitive and unwanted things. This is one of those things that happens to SO many women and people just don’t know how to deal with it because it’s not something people talk about. I would probably be the same way had I of not gone through what I’ve gone through.

Bottom line is, be a friend, listen, acknowledge and encourage.

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Vitamixing It Up

Well hello everyone, Sorry it’s been a while since my last post, been a bit hectic over here this past week. So, James and I after watching Fat, sick and nearly dead, and doing allot of research of what we were putting into our bodies, food and drink wise, decided we wanted to invest in a vitamix or a blendtech. For those of you that don’t know what these are, they are two of the best blender/juicers that are available in states. Trying to decide which one to get, well, that was a journey in itself that was extremely overwhelming, that I ended up buying the most expensive one just because, it had to be the best right?

So here are the two

images-5This one is the Vitamix 6300 (the one that James and I now own)

Unknownย This is a Blend tech, I have no idea about the model, as I didn’t look too much into buying one.

Both of these blenders, from my understanding is that they allow you to juice products without losing any valuable nutrients or fiber, unlike other juicers.

From personal friends who have these blenders the pros and cons were…

Blend Tech cons

  • ย Makes allot more noise
  • Doesn’t get all of the lumps and bumps out
  • Not as user Friendly

Blend Tech Pros

  • Cheaper
  • Blends soups aswel as smoothies
  • Professional blender

Vitamix Pros

  • Comes with a tamper, to push produce around to get rid of the lumps and bumps
  • Settings are user friendly
  • Timed settings
  • Professional
  • Bigger
  • Seven year warranty

Vitamix cons

  • Pricey

And that was about it ๐Ÿ˜€ Was it worth it? Absolutley. We make a smoothie every day, we can also make sorbet and soups from scratch in the vitamix without doing anything else, just drop the ingredients in, push hot soup and 3 minutes later, you have a hot soup thats ready to eat.

One of my favourite smoothies that James has been making for me is:

1 cup spinach

1cup green grapes

couple chunks of pineapple

ice

and thats it. I like to add protein powder, but not allot or it changes the flavor too much. I also like to add chia seeds, just to get some antioxidants in my little body.

I have found that since eating healthier I feel so much better. We try to not eat any packaged foods (well, that was until I found a shop that sells british food, and now I have been stuffing my face with wotsits ๐Ÿ˜‰ ) But aside from the odd pack of wotsits, I have been using fresh fruits and veggies grown at a local farmers market. One of my favourites is Cabbage soup, Cabbage is great because it lasts a long time in the fridge, from what i read it can last up to 5 weeks.

My recipe is delicious I think so anyway, james hates it ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

2 cups chopped cabbage (red and green)

1 small carrot

4.5 cups of water

4tbs chicken boulion

4 garlic cloves chopped or minced

(Homegrown lettuce or kale if you want a little something extra) – throw in at the very end for the last 3 mins or so

All I do is boil the water and boulion, throw everything in let it simmer for 15 minutes and taa daa, you have a healthy yummy cabbage soup, that is full of phytonutrients and fiber. So if you need to poop eat cabbage soup ๐Ÿ˜‰

Lots of love ๐Ÿ˜€

Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead!

James and I had a relaxing sunday today, James is still sick, and I felt like I was coming down with whatever he has, so we decided to stay home and rest. We played games on our phones, I made some soup and did the other hoousewifey stuff that needed doing., then we watched New Girl, which by the way is our favorite show ๐Ÿ™‚ We no longer have cable, instead we pay $7.99 for Hulu plus and $7.99 for Netflix, the only downside is that I don’t get to record ‘The Big Bang Theory’ anymore which makes me very sad, nor can I watch a random episode of friends, but I own the dvd series anyway so it’s not a big deal haha.

After we had caught up with every episode of New Girl, I was looking for a movie to watch and something titled ‘Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead’ ย caught my eye, the description said:

‘Focusing on two men whose bodies have been trashed by steroids, obesity and illness, this documentary chronicles the rigorous healing path — including a two-month diet of fruits and vegetables — that both attempt in a bid to rescue their health.’

The basic story is about a 41 year old australian man with a rare autoimmune disease, who comes to the states to start a 2 month juice fast in an attempt to save his health, he travels across the states talking with all kinds of people about their lifestyles, if they are happy, and their thoughts on the juice fast he is doing. It gives great insight to how terrible our everyday diets are and the important nutrients that we are missing. It’s amazing to see the results he achieves and the difference it makes to his life. Along his journey he meets another man who asks for his help, of course his advice is, to do what he has done. Some of the benefits from his juice fast and health changes were, a decrease in heart disease, stroke, cancer etc….. We all want to be healthy and we all hear about these diets and pills we should take, I particularly loved this because this actually shows us what this does as we follow his journey, we can see for ourselves the change we can create and the achievement we can achieve.

It is a highly uplifting and positive documentary that I loved so much, I wanted to tell everybody about it,

check out the trailer: http://www.fatsickandnearlydead.com/

Then watch it ๐Ÿ˜‰

p..s. James and I will be investing in a juicer in the very near future ๐Ÿ˜‰

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